Breaking up is no fun. Have you listened to the song “Need You Now” by Lady Antebellum? If you have not I suggest you do, it’s a fantastic song. In the song the characters are going through a painful break up and making mistakes.
Here’s a line from the song: “It’s a quarter after one, I’m all alone and I need you now. Said I wouldn’t call but I lost all control and I need you now.” Rule number one, Stop The Desperate Dialing!
Another line from the song is: “It’s a quarter after one, I’m a little drunk and I need you now.” Mistake number 2, drunk dialing. Another mistake we make in vulnerable break up state is to text the ex. And text, and text, and text. Don’t! Texting terrorism has never worked and never will.
What should you do to get your ex back?
Ask yourself one thing and be honest to yourself. Do I really want my ex back? Look deep inside to make sure the love for your ex is really there and this is not just a reaction to the loneliness.
If you answered with a confident, yes I want my ex back! Then there is a process to follow.
You Will Not Want To Do What Is Expected
What ever you do, do not be predictable. You want to keep the ex wondering and make them earn their way back into your good graces.
How do you avoid doing something that is expected? Break out of that day to day thing you do. Now is the time to spice things up and add some different, fun and fresh activities to your days.
Make Sure You Have Relationship Goals
Even if you are separated goals can still be set. When you are trying to get your ex back, the goals are a vital part of the process. Goals should be set for different degrees of closeness and affection between the two of you and then achieving those goals is key.
Goals you might want to consider include: making physical changes, reaching emotional milestones, and controlling your temper just to get started. You’ll have to find goals that are more appropriate to you and the type of relationship you had together.
Be Accountable For Both The Successes And The Failures
Accountability, lately seems to be in short supply. Hold yourself accountable for failing to meet goals. As well as rewarding yourself when goals have been triumphantly met.
Reward and punishment are great motivators. Use them well. Some rewards you might consider are new hair styles, new video games, or even a night on the town with friends. Be sure that you’re doing things to encourage an active lifestyle whenever possible. You don’t want to exacerbate existing problems by creating potential health problems along the way.
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